Okay yes I know I’ve been rubbish again and missed Wednesday but I did actually write it I just forgot to post it!
I wanted to talk about goals this week. I think it’s really important to set yourself goals but not to give yourself more stress in doing so. Setting small goals throughout your day is really important, and this doesn’t mean something as big as doing all the housework it can mean something as tiny as simply getting out of bed. Because that not tiny to many people.
The more small goals that you have on your list and tick off as you go along, the more achievement and pride you will feel in yourself throughout the day. When I set tasks that are too big for myself and I don’t complete them I always feel disappointed, however if I set lots of tiny tasks that really most people probably wouldn’t even consider tasks and I have lots and lots of them ticked off, I feel so much better about myself that I managed to achieve so much!
Of course we all have big ambitions too. For your larger goals I think that it’s really difficult to set a time limit. For example one of the most common goals that people set, losing weight. Let’s say I want to lose two stone and I set myself six months to do this. When I reach the end of the six months and I haven’t managed to lose all the weight if feels like an endpoint. It feels like I’ll have to start all over again. However if your task is an ongoing achievement then it doesn’t matter at what point you reach it. You should have check in points not an end date as then you never feel that you’re starting over it’s always a continual journey. This way you avoid too much disappointment but you still work hard to get to the point of achievement. I know some people might say that this defeats the point of setting goals, but for me I don’t think that reaching the target is the biggest or best part. What you learn and the smaller achievements along the way to reaching that large goal is so important, and when you have a time limit you often overlook these achievements with only the end in mind. I no longer say to myself I’m going to lose X amount of weight by this time. I say hey you’re my body and I accept you the way you are but I’d like to lose this amount of weight and I will get there however long it takes.
This is especially important if you have health problems that tend to get in the way or other things that create obstacles. You should never feel like a bout of illness is the end of reaching your task and you will need to start all over again. All the work that you put in before the hurdle comes in your way is still relevant and counted towards reaching your goal and you never should have to not over.
I’m not saying the system of setting goals to complete by a certain time isn’t right for some people, but if you’re the kind of person that beats yourself up when you haven’t achieved what you wanted to, then I think it’s better to consider that you’re constantly evolving, constantly working towards goals and not to feel like you’ve ever disappointed yourself. You should always feel proud of yourself for any small achievement whether that be simply getting out of bed or whether it’s that big thing like losing weight or writing that book.
Always be positive. Always be learning and improving and achieving. But please don’t push yourself too hard as you are great right now and to achieve more greatness takes time 🙂