Monday Mottos

Coping, Inspiration, life, motivation, mottos, Self doubt, Uncategorized, Wellness

Life can’t be all bad all the time, every moment will go by eventually! 

“Nothing is permanent in this wicked world, not even our troubles.” – Charlie Chaplin 

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Monday Mottos

Inspiration, motivation, mottos, Uncategorized

This motto feels very right for me at the moment. I am taking more risks (missing blog posts 😜) but I always regret when I shrink back inward and old bad habits creep in. I feel so much better when I am taking positive steps to make my life better. 

“In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety.” (Abraham Maslow)

Wellness Wednesdays

Coping, Wellness

Todays focus is the power of music.

As a musician perhaps I’m a bit biased but who doesn’t love music? Theres something for everyone, and something for every occasion.

Music has been a part of every kind of time in my life- the happy times and the bad. And its power never fails. Writing music for me is hugely therapeutic and something everyone should try. Learning an instrument or just singing along or tapping your feet to something can really make you feel a part of something. And simply listening to music can do this too.

Sometimes music lets you be sad…it lets you cry and wallow and makes you feel comforted and understood in your sorrow. At one of the worst points in my life a particular song that i would play super loudly whilst laying on the floor and soaking it in was Tori Amos ‘I can’t see New York’. Dramatic music makes you feel small…it puts things in perspective.

On the flip side, there are some songs that fill me with joy for the happy memories associated with them. Our wedding first dance, songs by bands that me and friends once went to see and childhood favourites.

It’s not always the most highly acclaimed well made music that can make you feel something special either. Something to dance to, relieve stress and laugh with is equally important. My pick here would be the Spice Girls. This music reminds me of being a child, it’s easy to listen to, you don’t have to think and you can just go wild. Cheesy? Hell yeah! But so what? Snobbery holds no place in music. It’s not about it’s technical merits but the way it makes you feel.

So whether you feel the need to indulge in your sadness or you want to cheer up and de-stress, music plays an important part in life. You can take it seriously, or not, but whatever you do, FEEL.

Belated Wellness!

Coping, motivation

I seem to be a day late with everything this week! As Wellness Wednesdays was a bust I have some wellness for you this evening in the form of a motivational poem. Written on the spot so certainly no masterpiece! Enjoy!

When I feel blue, which most of the time I do,

I try to give my mind, a dose of something new.

I’ve tried learning to yodel,

I’ve tried to write a book,

I’ve tried a change of scenery

To brighten my outlook.

There’s always something to be done

to stop a downward spiral.

To turn the sadness in your eyes

into a rising smile.

So when the bad thoughts come and your insides feel churned up

Try your hand at something new and you could change your luck.

A BIG hug to everyone who needs one- life can be tough but we should always keep on going. Interrupting bad thoughts with just doing something is the first step!

Wellness Wednesdays

health, Wellness

Today I’m feeling really crummy! I have a throat infection and am suffering with my endometriosis pain as I am having my first bleed in 3 months.

But…dwelling on the bad stuff is not the route to wellness!

Although I feel rubbish and won’t be doing much of anything today, it’s important to spend a little time outside. Feeling fresh air and sunlight on your skin improves mood, increases your level of vitamin D which helps keep your body healthy in many ways and helps you get better sleep at night.

Just letting the dog in the garden and standing out there with him for 10 mins is a good start. If you’re ill or in a slump or even working from home, don’t live in a world of darkness! Take breaks just to have a short walk, run an errand that involves leaving the house, step outside, or simply just open the curtains!!

Don’t over do things and spend most of your day resting if need be, but just take that bit of time to add some light into your life and hopefully you’ll feel a little brighter too.

Short and sweet today! I hope the sun shines on you today 🙂

Comparison

experiences, health, motivation

‘Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day?’

In my case it feels more like ‘Shall I compare thee to an elderly woman?!’

I’ve been very lack lustre this week and I do apologise for the lack of my regular features. I attended a wedding over the easter bank holiday which involved travelling and long days…not the most compatible things with me! It got me thinking though about how we compare ourselves to others.

I began tiring and getting dizzy half way through the day, pretty good going for me, but when it hit…it hit hard! I doubt anyone around me knew that I was struggling but as much as I wanted to be able to get up and dance like everyone else I just couldn’t. The thing that really bugged me was all of the “Come on, you gonna dance?”, “Sitting down? What’s wrong with you!” comments. You see this was my husbands friends wedding and so no one there other than him knew about my ‘health issues’. I do get frustrated when people assume you are a ‘regular’ 20 something who should be doing what the majority of other people are doing and think its ok to berate you if you’re not! But perhaps if people were the other way round and overly considered everything they said other people incase that person was struggling with something, then you’d start to feel like you looked as bad as you felt!

Comparison is tricky. Sometimes its good to compare yourself to others to gain inspiration. But mostly I find myself using it in a negative way. At that wedding I silently struggled, feeling sorry for myself that I couldn’t be like everyone else…But who’s to say how everyone else is anyway? At least one other person in that room would have been hiding something that they were struggling with. Maybe even the person next to me. When you compare yourself in order to justify self pity, it is never worthwhile or accurate. My comparison of myself to another person would be hugely different to someone else’s.

And I compare things constantly. Perhaps we all do…

Her outfit is much better than mine.

Their house is decorated so much better than mine.

I wish I could be at the gym all the time like her.

But are any of these things statement of fact? NO! It’s just negativity in a different form. It’s me feeling a sense of injustice and believing that I am not as good as others.

I will remind myself at this point of something that may sound negative but I think is always a helpful thing to think when comparing. Yes, there’s always someone better off/at that/looking than you, but there is also someone worse off/at that/looking than you.

At the end of the day, everyone is different. There is no ‘normal’. Ok so maybe most of the people around you are fairly healthy and you’re not. So what! Maybe one of those people is desperately heartbroken and hiding that pain. We are all hiding things, even the people who are the life and soul of the party. All you can do is be honest with yourself, accept yourself in all its glory and hardships, and stop comparing! Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses and like they say, if we were all the same, life would be pretty dull!